I’m 40, Single, and Childless—Toke Makinwa
At 40, being single and childless isn’t a failure—it’s a journey of self-discovery, success, and personal fulfillment. Read Toke Makinwa’s inspiring reflection on embracing life on her own terms.
Owning My Truth at 40
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There was a time when turning 40 without a husband or children felt like a nightmare. Society has conditioned many—especially women—to measure success by marriage and motherhood.
But what if life has a different plan? What if fulfillment looks different for everyone?
Media personality Toke Makinwa recently shared a powerful message about reaching 40, single and childless, yet thriving. She wrote:
“I’m 40, single, and childless. I said it, and I did not die. I used to think, how am I forty and I don’t have a child? If I’m to be completely honest, if I had gotten married again, I would have divorced because the lessons never end.
I’m grateful for where I am. Sometimes, you need to sit with your truth; you can’t shame the shameless.
I am forty, and I’m a boss. I’ve built an empire, and I’m not waking up miserable. I’m not always going to be childless, because what I desire, desires me too.”
Her words resonate with many women who feel pressured to follow a traditional life script. But Toke’s story proves that happiness is not tied to societal expectations—it’s about living on your own terms.
Breaking Free from Society’s Timeline
For decades, women have been told that they must marry by 30, have children by 35, and settle into a predictable routine. But times are changing. Women today are building businesses, leading industries, and prioritizing personal growth.
Being single at 40 isn’t a tragedy. It’s an opportunity:
- An opportunity to build an empire – like Toke, who has made a name for herself in media and business.
- An opportunity to discover self-worth – beyond relationships or societal labels.
- An opportunity to embrace personal desires – including love and motherhood, when the time is right.
Success Comes in Many Forms
For some, success means a happy marriage and kids. For others, it’s financial independence, career growth, and peace of mind. No path is superior to the other.
Toke’s journey reminds us that we are not defined by our marital status or parenthood. She is living proof that you can be single, childless, and still powerful, happy, and fulfilled.
What You Desire, Desires You Too
One of the most profound statements in Toke’s reflection is:
“I’m not always going to be childless because what I desire, desires me too.”
This is a powerful mindset. Life is about trusting the process and believing that everything you wish for will come in its time.
So, to every woman feeling pressured by age or expectations—breathe.
You are exactly where you need to be.
Final Thoughts
At 40, Toke Makinwa is not defined by outdated standards. She’s a boss, a powerhouse, and an inspiration. Her story encourages women everywhere to live freely, embrace their journey, and define success on their own terms.
Whether single, married, childless, or a mother—your happiness is valid.
